Author: Leil Lowndes
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional, 2009
Length: 336 pages
Book Overview From Publisher
Meet new people and converse with confidence.
Be credible and charismatic in every social and business situation.
Make friends and important contacts wherever you go.
Command the respect of everyone you meet.
You know who they are. They’re the people who, regardless of money, education, looks, or personality, make an impression wherever they go. They are master communicators, and everyone enjoys talking to them. How to Develop Great People Skills shows you how to be one of those lucky few.
Communication guru Leil Lowndes arms you with ninety-six all-new, cutting edge, research-based communications techniques for success in life, love, and business. You will smash the invisible glass ceiling that keeps many people down both personally and professionally. Your new weapon is a neurologically and psychologically sound concept called “Emotional Prediction,” or E.P. Leil Lowndes explains the power of EP and shows you how to harness it through deceptively simple methods to reach greater success in all of your relationships.
How is it that two men can be born into families of the same socioeconomic status, attend the same schools, and are equally intelligent, but one man ends up a successful CEO and the other has trouble making enough money to live? Is it karma, luck, or perhaps inside connections? Leil Lowndes, a master communications expert and best selling author of How to Talk to Anyone, would say the CEO displays “Emotional Prediction.”
What is Emotional Prediction?
Lowndes believes Emotion prediction is the secret to instantly connecting with others. It is the ability to be able to anticipate another person’s feelings by placing yourself in their shoes.
Examples of Emotional Prediction
- A potential employer is meeting you around the close of business. Acknowledging that you appreciate their time at the end of what may be a long work day will make an instant connection.
- Even though you have the instructions committed to memory, making an effort to take down notes anyway will make your boss feel more secure about you-another instant connection.
- Introducing “Steve, my assistant,” is more emphatic, personable, and warm, than “my assistant Steve.”
In How to Instantly Connect With Anyone, Leil Lowndes gives 96 little tricks on how to break the ice, put yourself at ease, make a first and lasting impression, and become a people magnet. You will learn the art of being more confident in social gatherings and make a positive impact by applying her Emotional Prediction techniques.
I found myself laughing and identifying with some of the uncomfortable situations the author found herself in and how she escaped a not so pleasant experience while remaining to look dignified by using her E.P methods. One of my favorite little tricks is #57. This trick helps you break away from a bore who likes to talk your ear off without hurting their feelings. I’m sure some of you out there can relate with trying to avoid that one acquaintance who keeps you in a conversation longer than you would like and away from important work.
Little Trick #57
Walk Away Slowly, Then Let Them See You Sprint.
A quick review on how to escape a bore in five easy steps.
- Wave enthusiastically when you first spot her.
- Stop and chat, unrushed, for forty-five seconds.
- Look at your watch and act disappointed.
- Walk slowly away.
- After a few yards, break into a sprint and run like hell.
Now she feels valued, you retain her respect, and it didn’t take any longer than the insulting white rabbit break dance.
Here is how to get sweet freedom while still leaving the bore admiring you.
Leil recommends you yak it up for forty five-seconds which is the minimum time to qualify as a genuine conversation, and posses a laid back demeanor. Then look at your watch and explain how you are late for a meeting , appointment, or event. Now, here comes the most important move which must be executed correctly in order for you to not blow your cover. Begin walking away at a leisurely pace, but when you get ten feet away from the person, break into a sprint. This gives the wind bag the impression you are making up for lost time because you preferred to stay and chat.
Who should read How to Instantly Connect with Anyone – 96 All-New Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships?
I recommend this book to ANYONE who would like to make new friends, gain respect from business contacts, or become more comfortable in social and business situations. Leil Lowndes writing style makes the book entertaining, and it is loaded with amazing advice to help you communicate effectively with people. The book also gives useful information on things you should never say or do if you want to maintain your connection.
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