Studies show that moving in too soon with a romantic partner can have detrimental effects on the relationship. The Insitute for Family Studies mentions that some common problems include increased conflict, a harder time determining capability, greater difficulty breaking up if and when the time comes, or even future marital problems.
So, if moving into the same household is a bad idea at the beginning of a relationship, what else should you be cautious of? We have the answers!
Here are nine other things you should refrain from doing too soon if you wish to boost your shot at a long, happy relationship:
1. Saying “I love you”
Love is a big word. Not only that but telling someone you love them too soon in the relationship may push them away. So, to make the most of out those three words, save then for the right moment.
2. Going on vacation
It’s nice taking a loved one on a special trip to give you company, great laughs, and new memories. But big moves like this essentially
3. Getting intimate
The first time you get intimate with a partner should be special. If and when you choose to be intimate together, it should be at a time you feel comfortable with the person and trust that the interaction and thereafter will be as expected (e.g., no STDs, no immediate breakup).
4. Deciding to have a baby
Dating someone doesn’t have to be a long-term decision. Having a baby together, however, ties you with your partner in a way a casual, romantic relationship normally doesn’t. And being early on in a relationship, it’s harder to gauge whether or not your partner will even be a reliable parent from the start.
5. Meeting each other’s family
When you meet a partner’s family, it’s a pretty big deal. While you’ve casually met countless people in your lifetime, meeting the family of your partner is something greater. To a partner, it suggests, “I hope to possibly one day commit to you and make you apart of this family.” Don’t leave the potential for empty promises.
6. Revealing personal information
When you’re in a very, very fresh relationship, the last thing you’ll want to tell them are the most personal aspects about you: your home address, your whole life story, your job title and where you work, and even how much money you have saved up in the bank. Wait until you know their intentions first. Even then, don’t be so quick to give it away.
7. Telling your darkest secrets
So, you have a secret or two. We all do. An uber embarrassing thing of your past or what you did last summer aren’t really things you should be sharing so fresh into a partnership.
8. Engagement
When initially getting involved in a new relationship, you start to decide, “Is this a person I can see myself possibly marrying?” It’s normal to have dreams of platinum engagement rings, even early on in a partnership.
9. Marriage
Unlike a casual relationship, marriage is designed to be forever. Of course, it doesn’t always end that way. Either way, it’s critical to slowly work your way to marriage, ultimately to decide whether or not your partner is someone you believe you can spend the rest of your life with as your life partner.
Conclusion
When you first meet someone, you get warm, fuzzy feelings inside. You go through what many call the puppy dog phase: the stage of infatuation. But truth be told, it’s never a good idea to make important decisions and big moves during this premature aspect of your relationship. Remember: moving too quickly in any part of your relationship can lead to long-term problems.
